ADAT DIMINANGKABAU MARRIAGE

System with the matrilineal system of communal life, a place of business colleagues, ranging from:
a. Couples seeking affairs - manyalangkan Mato - maresek,
b. Making and approval pelamaran - pinang woo,
c. Engagements - batimbang tando
d. The marriage - baralek
e. Results of marriage - kinship system.

This is based on the philosophy of the Minang people, and assume that individuals live together, so that problems become household affairs together well. A pair of children's personal problems that people will build mahligai not household irrespective of the management together.
Marriage patterns of exogamy, in which a pair of unity husband and wife does not become dissolved in one household but each pair is the husband the wife stays in the relatives of each. Exogamy in the structure, each person is a citizen and the tribe of their own, even if already bound in marriage has been childless and pinak also.



In matrilini system, children born as a result of marriage to become a member of the mother. Why? because of the nature of nature, being born in this world to the mother.
A father does not need to be responsible to the life of her son, because there's been a brother of his mother akan membimbingnya life in future.

How is indeed a condition of marriage exogamy is similar. Not dispute occurred in the life of the household is similar. Overview of the life of this same show a quasi-marriage. But surely not ...! Because the life of a marriage exogamy this, apparently able to maintain domestic harmony, because of the marriage in that culture and tradition of marriage is Minang family. Marriage has a governance and in accordance with the philosophy that they took.

Exogamy marriage put the wife on the same status with her husband. Minang woman in the matriarchal system and the pattern of communal life caused them to not depend on her husband. A husband and family are guests at home his wife, he was spoiled and respected, but it is not the holder of power over his wife and children. If he wanted to disanjung and respected, then the husband must be a clever-padai adjust dikeluarga his wife.

Ideal Marriage

Ideal marriage is done, when the marriage occurred between the immediate family, such as the marriage between the children and niece. This marriage is prevalent;
a. kemamak marital home, the children lead the mamak, or kebako marital home, the niece marry the father.

This marriage was conducted with the goal to preserve the relationship of husband and wife in order not to interfere with the problems that may arise, because of the serasian among relatives. Excess-excess arising within the family relating to the inheritance can be avoided.
This similar pattern of marriage, is a manifestation of the proverbial ring; dipangku child-led niece.

b. Take take marriage; means brothers, men and women a married sister in-hand with
- women beradik B.

Destination weddings take take this, is to maintain the kinship relations besan brother-in-law, also to get a husband for the worthy children's niece, without the need to investigate the origin of prospective husband and wife couple that.

c. Marriage same crew crew, who conducted the inter sekorong, compatriot, nagari se
or se minangkabau.

Marriage like this is ideal because it is said to strengthen the institution of marriage, where marriage is indeed the structure of exogamy, the more easily fragile because a husband does not have the burden and responsibility to his wife and children. Other crew as if the pattern samo crew, plus the close relationship awaknya, kukuhlah added that the marriage relationship.
Marriage that is less than ideal when one of the pair comes from the Non Minang, particularly women with non Minang. Minang men who marry like this, is considered harmful to the structure of traditional Minang, because;

a. children who are born of the marriage, not the tribe of Minangkabau.
b. Children who are born will be a burden for men Minang that, because a man minang duty for the sake of his brother in relation to, his people, and they nations.
c. The presence of the wife outside the Minangkabau people is considered a burden in the family.

Marriage prohibition

Prohibition of marriage is a universal, even where, for example, the prohibition of marriage and incestuous marriage, namely:
a. Marriage is taboo; marriage destructive sitem their custom, the marriage is connected to each according to the blood system matrilini.
b. Incestuous marriage, marriage is the harmony that can damage the social community, namely:

1. sib spouse, close relatives, neighbors who have been divorced,
2. memper-madukan women sekerabat,
3. lead the people in the middle of the betrothal.
4. Wed stepdaughter kandungnya brother.

Prohibition against the marriage penalty;
a. dissolve the marriage,
b. dispose of the law, expelled, be excommunicated,
c. penalty fines and apologize to all parties through a banquet with a cut two tails of cattle.

Variety Marriage
In the process of marriage occurs, there is a wide range of marriages take place in community life, namely:
a. Replace the lining of marriage:
Marriage is between a man or woman among couples who both had died. Both men and women who will marriage it, is the brother the woman who had died of.
That is for the sake of the relationship between husband and wife pair relatives of children with previous offspring. So that the children did not have a father or stepparent of others.

b. cino buto marriage:
This unique marriage, the husband and wife as a pair that has been divorced three times marries again be married with her husband or his wife, when the widow was married to another man first.
Variety of marriage is similar, not as a practice carried out according to the religion, but whether in fact there, Wallahu nature.

How marriage
In Ranah Minang, there are two of the marriage procedure:
a. Marriage according to religion (syara `). The marriage contract before the kadhi.
When the procedure is held according to the religion, not a pair of husband and wife are living the same house stairs, when they have not made the customary marriage, known as "baralek".
At this time they do "marriage or marrying hanging objects", the second husband and wife pair have not been allowed to interact in a single household.

b. marriage according to custom, when the event was done "baralek" the banquet by inviting all members of both husband and wife couple relatives that.

According to relatives marriage Women
If seen in terms of interest, the interest of the marriage more heavily on women. Because it is a pemprakarsa in their marriage and home life. Start looking for a mate, woo, menyelenggaranakan marriage, and manage and provide all the need to form a household to bear all incurred in the marriage. Why is this importance of the involvement of relatives in a marriage because, among others:

Marriage is an obligation for a girl who has the ability to settle. When he was considered mature ( "gadih large), it is the obligation of parents and Ninik mamak find jodohnya. For if a girl, are not married, then bring dishonor to the relatives concerned. Not only for his people, girls itupun akan bathin suffering of birth defects. Girls have gaek / old maid in the household is a stigma that will be a burden as long as the relatives. Dignity therefore fall into the family.
In Pre Penikahan Terms

ADAT HOW MARRIAGE AND GOVERNANCE
During the batimbang tando - betrothal, there are some things that need clarification in between the two sides, namely the procedure, terms and others made at the time held in the akan. In completing this requirement, not to achieve victory based on between the men and women, but in order to maintain the family honor, in which the parties can fill the needs of prospective bridegroom akan medapat the assessment of both eyes of each family.
Variation on this is quite diverse, as well as the proverb says; another reservoir other ikannya, the other other belalangnya
Events Babako-Babaki

Events babako, is a tradition that reflects the life of the community work together in Minangkabau, where relatives father CPW order to provide goods for CPW, which consists seperangakat needs of women with tray tray arranged in accordance with the amount of goods that will be retroactive. Although kewijiban main organizing the event is in the hands of the mamak Ninik women, but also involve the relatives of the father. Usually if there hajad to hold the marriage, the mother of The Women Candidates (CPW), akan tahukan give the relatives of her husband (bako from CPW), has about gadisnya get a mate.Then he will deliver the order and pre-wedding ceremonies, akad nikah ceremony. He invited the "parent bako / bako" (maternal law - if there is still her husband and brother) or iparnya to release their children to participate pelaminan levels.

For periparan and fellow pebesanan Minangkabau, the invitation itself is understood as a request for assistance or donations he girls children who will perform the wedding. There is a hint that says "sabalun bakilek ne bakalam", which means that the parties invited to the powwow itself has to know the purpose and objectives of the discussion that

The Men meet
Manjampuik marahpulai

The most basic events in the marriage according to custom draw together unmarried and on the marapulai with witnessed by the guests who attended. For it is the bride will send messengers to pick marahpulai in official ceremonies.Past worship worship done between families and children kick pulai daro, entourage penjemput are rising to the Marahpulai. Family marahpulai start checking all the equipment carried by the clothes the family that the child daro.

The most basic events in the marriage according to custom draw together unmarried and on the marapulai with witnessed by the guests who attended. For it is the bride will send messengers to pick marahpulai in official ceremonies. Past worship worship dilakukuan between families and children kick pulai daro, entourage penjemput are rising to the Marahpulai. Family marahpulai start checking all the equipment carried by the clothes the family that the child daro. Bride to meet the man / marahpulai, is the procession of the most important event of the whole series of marriage according to customary Minangkabau. In the past, family child daro pick marahpulai made by some men only, then the marahpulai taken to mosques and melafazkan consent kabulnya there and received by the father of the child daro and witnessed by some of the other family.
After the marriage ceremony is completed, marahpulai home kerumahnya first and then children and families to meet daro marahpulai home to her parents for children in the house dipersandingkan daro. Now is the time for efficiency, as is done in large cities, akad nikah ceremony held at the home and children daro consent granted after the ceremony takes place, then both it and on the marriage.




Events After the akad nikah

After the procedure, and the ceremony to meet and greet the finish was conducted, both dipersandingkan. Sometimes there is not menyanding both the bride, but after the statement of consent from the male bride, the bridegroom dipersandingkan women. The host has been managing the guests witnessed the ceremony which will be granted this consent. Kedua orang tua pengantin, Ninik mamak placed at the position either as witnesses of the marriage contract. Both of the parents, Akad nikah main event and take granted consent in accordance with the provisions of Islam. Akad nikah penghulu led directly by the usually held by the head of the local Religious Affairs. After all consent granted ceremony is complete, then more then held several events in accordance with the treasury Minangkabau culture. Among them are:
1. Mamasang ring
2. Sambah Bakti
3. Events Mamulangkan Tando
4. Malewakan Gala Marapulai
5. Balantuang Kaniang
6. Mangaruak Rice Kuniang
7. Bamain Coki



A visit to the law - escort rice

After the akad nikah ceremony, followed by draw together both on the dwelling house in the lass. After the traditional procession and perform a series of events after the akad nikah, an event that is not less important in a large in the (large baralek), in the rite of marriage customs in Minangkabau, the event is manjalang mintuo. This event may be equated with "ngunduh mantu" according to the applicable customary Java. The implementation of this event and the invitation made by the family marahpulai.
After marriage the husband stay at home wife

Related to the matrilineal kinship system, after the ceremony was held after the wedding, then marahpulai / husbands stay at home wife. Although he held residence at the home of the wife, does not mean he became head of the family home his wife. Domiciled at home as his wife by marriage (urang sumando), where he has a duo local residence, a term given by an anthropologist named Mordock. This is because that each husband and wife remain in the nation and sukunya respectively. Couples married husband and wife who is not with the means of a marriage, one party into the tribe or clan partners, as happened in the land of the tribe BATAK. But he stays in the race and the individual.